Relationships are coming back to the fore. We all have a clarified, reshaped and more sharply focused sense of self, after the puzzle pieces and choices that abounded last week. Opportunities are now here to firm up relationships and agreements to match those freshly honed identities — and, in the process, reshape ourselves even more.
Everything is moving, inescapably, into a new paradigm — yes, I groan at that word myself, but it really does apply to what is happening within each and within each of our connections. We are different. We are relating to each other differently. The structures and rules of our relationships are, as a result, vastly different, too.
These two steps occur on top of each other, so intertwined that the relationship ramifications are developing even as the personal shifts are still going on. The phrase “work in progress” applies to a lot right now. Even so, firm, clear and very real parameters are taking shape that will stay with us.
This week the Sun, which embodies our sense of self, is contacting both of the change agents that are fomenting the relentless upheaval we are experiencing and seeing on so many fronts. Both contacts occur during overnight hours, well before dawn on Monday and on Tuesday. The timing causes the shift resulting from each contact to lock into place in the subconscious (although we will certainly feeling the pressure during waking hours the day before).
The Sun starts the week at a choice point with Pluto, guardian of what lies beneath and holder of the ultimate power of life, death and rebirth. We cast our lot with either fear, compulsions and demons in one direction, or personal truth and alignment with a greater consciousness in the other. The choice permanently changes our psyche and relationship to power; a part of us dies so that the remainder may grow and flourish.
An open channel follows to the liberating, awakening electricity of Uranus. New possibilities are opening up for who we are and who we can be. The Plutonian/Uranian one-two guarantees an end to putting up with situations that squelch or imprison you, simply to keep the peace. Personal honesty, liberation and unfettered freedom of movement and exploration are becoming imperatives.
They’re actually invigorating and intoxicating, to be honest. This has probably already been occurring to you, even if you’re still cowering in soul-deadening circumstances because you don’t see a way out, or feel brave enough to rock the boat. Make that haven’t, up to now. Mice are roaring. Standing up for yourself in even a tiny way makes a huge impact now.
While our inner world is the first frontier for this end of the equation, it will likely also play out through external developments. Watch what blows open, lands in your lap or flies into your life from a direction or source you did not see coming.
All of this coincides with a strengthening, solidifying, grounding and real-making trend in relationships. The astrological timing dovetails perfectly with the psychological. When we are more truly ourselves, we are more present in relationships, and relationships become more honest, true and real.
What’s bringing this on: Venus, ruler of all that we value on a mundane level (relationships, money, possessions, core values, aspects of our selves), is linking with the ruler of stability and commitment, Saturn himself. Situations of lasting value are shaping up. Ones that can’t support us in the long run are winding down.
Information and negotiations are going to fly this week fleshing out new ground rules, discussing where both parties want the relationship to go (and how to get there), making commitments and hashing out exit strategies.
Don’t go into this with anxiety. It will be easy to talk. Conversations will flow. People will be astonishingly amenable to them, too. You don’t have to manipulate or engineer; more than once you will find yourself in the right place at the right time. (You do, however, have to step up to opportunity when it appears.) You already know where most of these situations are heading, or at least you know the direction that you want.
Remember: lasting value is at the top of everyone’s list. That’s why this has not been a summer for light-hearted romance or casual flings. Those would be distractions and interruptions. What we need now are companions who can walk shoulder to shoulder with us, true to their own journey and yet supportive of ours.
There’s also an element of coming to grips with sober, and sobering, reality: recognizing what is feasible and what is not. If you’re hoping that someone who treated you badly is going to come back, undergo a personality change and never engage in that objectionable behavior again…that relationship is in the second category. To which you are starting to wise up.
You won’t want anything other than what is true to you. The clean-up event in this process ensures that: the Aquarius Full Moon late Wednesday/early Thursday. This Moon is not only ruled by Uranus, one of the change agents already at work this week and for the foreseeable future, but it is also in direct and free-flowing contact with the liberating, awakening firepower that Uranus is wielding in Aries. More in my mooncast, which will be posted by Wednesday.
Venus and Saturn are toning down some of the “my way or the highway” impulses, but fires of individuality and personal freedom are igniting and flaring. Reckless, maybe; bold, probably; fast-acting, for certain. Know thyself. Be true to yourself. Speak up. And don’t make agreements you can’t or don’t want to keep.
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